You’re not a perfectionist in the obvious ways. Your room’s messy, your wardrobe’s chaotic, and you don’t care about most details. But there are specific things that have to be done properly, and when they’re not, your body feels it. That’s the kind of perfectionism people rarely talk about.

You sit down to do the breathing exercise properly. You follow the count. You try to get it right. And somehow, instead of calming down, your body tightens and your mind starts spiralling. If breathwork has ever made you feel worse instead of better, you’re not doing it wrong.

If you can psychoanalyse yourself but still feel stuck, counselling probably needs to look different for you.

You know your attachment style. You can name your patterns. You understand why you are the way you are. And somehow, nothing really changes.

Most of us like to believe we choose partners based on desire, compatibility, or shared values. Sometimes we do. But underneath that, there’s often another force quietly shaping who feels attractive.

You’re finally allowed to stop, but your nervous system is still acting like it’s mid-week and something urgent is about to come through. The inbox slows, work goes quiet, and yet rest feels itchy instead of relaxing. This is the weekend paradox, and it has less to do with willpower than you’ve been led to believe.

Burnout suggests exhaustion from effort. What many people are dealing with feels different. It’s not that there’s too much to do. It’s that starting feels unsafe, heavy, or strangely impossible, even when the task itself is simple. This isn’t a discipline problem, and it’s not a motivation issue either.